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 | |  | | Dear DarlaMae, what a wonderful posting and can benefit from your words and the phrase from your counselor. So many are well meaning, but doesn't always come out as it should. In a fragile state, things are so emotional. Some cannot talk to those in grief, but in my thoughts, the need for those to care and to show that care and love are important and essential. When my dad passed suddenly at 56, one of the people I worked for said "I don't know what to say but I am sorry". It was not a long sentence, but it was something that I still remember as I had only started working there and didn't know the Partners well. So good to be surrounded with good comfort and support. This learned in therapy during a time of deep distress. I tend to isolate and at times, it was what I needed to do, for a while. Then I went to Hospice grief group for 13 months and found it to be an outlet that was safe. This too, is why I still go to Empty Leash, it is for all loss, and also to share and hopefully help another there. Had our Christmas gathering last week and a woman whose dog passed the weekend before said at the end of the evening, how being there had helped her. And she would come back. We are sending alot of love to Stacy. So cheering to have the tree and lights and decorations and Brendan's tree in his room. It is alot of effort to put all around.
One thing I learned in the therapy, is there are no right or wrong feelings. A small little sentence but it makes sense and have remembered for over 17 years now.
Glad that your sweet Nanny is there. Wonderful news of the cardio testing and no blockage. You are in a cardio class, good for body and soul, releasing endodorphines. Have to get back to the gym for that reason. Do you read at all, DarlaMae, I found some very good and helpful books. Knowing I was not alone, was very important, that I am not adrift. Sorry to use "I" continually just trying to relate to past experience and the help found in certain things that were of benefit, to me. Had a list of books that I was given in group and went to the bookstore and bought several of them. Then when Rob was in the Marine induction process, I met another woman there whose son was going as well. We started talking and I took the books to her house. Holding tightly to each other, we are not alone and we have those who care in our lives. You have been in our thoughts so much, sweet girl, and it is a blessing to have your message to read this morning. Love you so so very much.    Edited by author Sat Dec 29, '12 2:59am PST
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Stressful and pooped to say least. we are all still breathing so that is good right?
Jk but yes we are all still here which is good despite our many losses here in our Buhens family support beyond compare.
Extra hugs for all. NAnny visiting 2 days so quick post for me,bol. Weather stinks m ore ont the way whooppe not. Be SAFE!!
Pre Christmas is Advent or to many Shoppping madness.
As said Christmas/Yuletide is until Candlemas(feb 2 which is also Grampa Ds Deaprted Dads Bd/groundhog day too. We too keep decorations up at least until Little Christmas(Three Kings/Epiphany) Jan 6th. Lomger this yr as not pushing anything & DaddyO pushed too far doing what he did. We do appreciate the color,we need it & heck we;ll see how it goes. depite the blahs we did it for B as he loved it and got his own Light tree,daddyO special, on his BR wall.
BEST Christmas gift we saw S and her family she is despeertatly depressed and we missed her so much. 
: Lots here down with the flu ohter bugs,cross paws we do not get as 3 plus we were with over Christmas have come down with it and neither of us up to that.
OOPPS got adfternoon .....GOOD news from Dr. I have followup 6 weeks Cardio NO BLOCKAGES!!! I DO have Arrythmias/ohter beat issues/ to be monitored. Hhowever he does NOT want to pile meds on which I say thank dog!Life has been hell I now can say for weeks and so much going on truly one thing after the other and B just sstarting iot hit me. My eldest brothers scre and stents slapped some sense into upping my appts. I will have followup blloddwork office visit within 6 weeks. I had BAD pains,which lessesne and never left but worse with ANY stress. Combo of our horrendous loss, my nrhealth issues,home remodeling Super storms and the Non stop adrenaline surge te origin now just winding down so body said boo!.
Do NOT play around folks and keep working on taking care of yourselves please. Ipromised I will call for anything and never put off. Stress is BAD and we all have far too much even with de stressing methods can overwhelm us . I LOVe the Cardio group there Front end and back big anf small so NICe big Plus.
"Thanks for caring(doing)..."Sheep" you for sharing!
