|Barked: Mon Jun 10, '13 11:04am PST |
|Tiller--some excellent points, and the second essay makes an enormous difference in how I view her. And, honestly, not that interested in judging her feelings, if her brain and judgment have kicked in and she's giving good advice, not dangerous advice.
My mom isn't a dog person, doesn't love dogs the way we do,and my first dog, that border collie, was HER first dog ever. She was afraid of dogs, and not happy that my dad bought me a puppy and then, a few weeks later, went back to sea. (He was a merchant marine navigator.)
She was still clear about the fact that the puppy was a living, breathing creature with the ability to feel pain and fear, as well as pleasure and love. And my sister had all the impulsiveness and obliviousness of other living beings that any infant or young toddler has.
My mother needed to see my sister do something that put stress on the dog ONCE, to start enforcing separation, supervision, and active teaching about what was and wasn't appropriate (to the degree my sister was able to understand, which obviously was almost non-existent at first.) It's not about being a dig person or not, or loving dogs as much as we do or not. It was obvious to my mother that having your ear squeezed or being kicked in the ribs are not fun things, and that with the offender's hand in your mouth, it takes real restraint not to bite. It's about having empathy for living things that don't look exactly like you.
It's good that she learned. I'm really pleased and impressed by that. But she didn't make the original mistake merely because she's "not a dog person."
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